Time to Embrace Your Anger

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The Bhagavad Gita describes anger as the "gateway to hell".  

Ever since we were young, we were taught to be patient and respectful and to put a damn lid on that temper. You'll find a plethora of articles, books and spiritual gurus, who talk about the vice of anger. How anything spoken or done in anger shall always backfire and how anger is the mark of a weak individual.  

Well, here's an unpopular opinion: Sometimes, anger is good. 

Now before you get angry, hear me out. Then, you're free to feel whatever you'd like 😊  

What I'm about to write is pretty unorthodox. No mother would ever tell her child this. No husband should ever say this to pacify a livid wife (unless you'd like to get punched). I'll try my best to communicate what's on my mind.  

This piece is not going to educate you on why you shouldn't be angry. I'm not even going to talk about blood pressure and hypertension. My motive today is something else and it's a fairly recent realization I've had about myself.  

We all know we should not lose our temper. Not many people would truly enjoy being angry. Not everyone relishes the feeling of being angry. I say sometimes anger is good because it reminds you that you're not emotionally dead inside. Mind you, I'm not discussing the consequences of angry behavior. I'm not condoning violence or verbal abuse. I'm talking about a regular emotion you go through when you just want to throw something against the wall or punch a crocodile in the face.    

Unlike the popular notion that "anger clouds your judgment", I've realized that anger forces you to think and speak clearly. Every time something doesn't go your way and you're pissed, you get to analyze what went wrong and how you could have prevented it. When the anger is channeled towards a solution-oriented path, it leads to something good – a practical solution.  Fear and helplessness bring out the weaker side of you, whereas anger makes you take charge.  

Losing one's temper is easy. Even Aristotle said so. But, what matters is the way it is handled. I've always believed that every individual deserves a healthy outlet of emotions. As someone who has grown up hearing "you always get so angry", I always longed for some validation of my emotion. If instead of "stop being so angry", someone had reached out and asked me my point of view or had asked me the "why", the whole situation would have been very different.  

As Aristotle said, "Anybody can become angry-that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way -t hat is not within everybody's power and is not easy". 

So, dear reader, I implore you to be angry. I invite you to let out your anger because it feels good and because you don't deserve to repress it. And the next time you see someone who is angry, reach out to them with sympathy instead of dismissing their feelings.  

Humble request: please don't get into a brawl and take this blog post as your defense. It wouldn't stand in a court of law 😊  

Till next time. 

Cheers!

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